Just because you have been dating for years doesn’t mean you will know how to behave when you are dating a widower. Keep in mind that this kind of relationship comes with its own set of rules and you need to follow them if you want to make it work. If you have never dated a widower in your life, here is what you need to know.
Sex on the first date is a huge no-no
In any other relationship, sleeping with a guy after a couple of dates is the most normal thing in the world. However, when you are dating a widower, it is something you should avoid. Moving too fast can scare him off and even make him feel like he is cheating on his late wife. Therefore, play it cool and let him make the first move.
You are not a mother to his kids
The fact is that a lot of widowers have children. If he introduces you to them, it means that he is serious about your relationship and sees his future with you. However, the last thing you want to do is mother his kids. To them, you are a stranger who is going to take their mom’s place, so be prepared that they might resent you. Instead of suffocating them with your love and advice, give them space and let them come to you. If they need you, be there for them. Otherwise, step away and let them deal with their problems on their own. In time they will start getting to know you and let their guard down. Therefore, just be patient and take things slow.
Don’t play games
Let us be honest, women like to play mind games with their partners, especially at the beginning of a relationship. However, when it comes to dating a widower, you should throw out your playbook and just lay your cards on the table. These guys went to hell and back, and the last thing they need is to be with someone who will mess with their mind and emotions. So, forget about playing hard to get or hot and cold and just be yourself.