We understand that getting back on the market can seem scary if you are a wheelchair user. You probably want to be with someone who will love you for who you are, with all your qualities and flaws, right?
Well, everyone wants that, but most people waste a lot of time on jerks before they finally find someone who suits them. However, your wheelchair is kind of a douche-repeller and it can help you weed out superficial and ignorant A-holes. You know, the people that stop answering your texts once they learn about your disability and also the ones that aren’t reluctant to ask you whether you can have sex although you’ve never met them in person.
Thanks to your chair, you will never have to meet that kind of people. So you see, not everything is black and white and you need to focus on silver lining here. If you want to join the disabled dating community, here are some tips that might help you.
Try online dating
Regardless of whether you are interested in able-bodied or disabled individuals, online dating can help you meet a lot of single people who live in your area. If you’d rather meet someone the old-fashioned way, skip the bars and see if there are any local groups or interesting classes you could join.
Be honest about your requirements
First dates are already stressful and nerve-wracking, so don’t put yourself in a difficult situation. Therefore, make sure you meet your date in a wheelchair accessible location. The last thing you want to do is to struggle to get into the building or to the toilet.
Make sure you are both comfortable
If you are going out with an able-bodied person, the type of date where they will stand the whole time might be super-awkward. Therefore, choose a dating activity that allows you to be at the same eye level, such as having a dinner or watching a movie.
Be open and relaxed
Chances are your date will want to know something about your disability, so make sure talking about your handicap is not a difficult subject. After all, telling them what they want to know will help them relax and understand your situation better.