Dating game is hard for anyone, but when you are HIV positive there are even more things to consider. HIV doesn’t make finding the right person any easier, but it is far from impossible.
HIV dating was complicated before, but today there are many HIV dating sites, where people from the start know your condition, so you get to skip that awkward conversation nobody likes to have. There are some things you should consider before you start HIV positive dating. So let’s begin.
Making a big deal of it
If you only talk about you being HIV positive, what’s the point of dating? You have support groups for that. Remember, you are on that web site to find love, not a shoulder to cry on. Act like it’s a regular dating site and try to find the perfect match for you. There is someone out there for you, we know it.
Both positive? Woohoo, no condoms!
Many HIV positive couples think that just because they both have it, they don’t need to use condoms because – what’s the point? You are still at risk from other types of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. There are many different types or “strains” of HIV, and some change or “mutate” over time. When a person who is infected with one strain becomes infected with a second strain, it is called a “superinfection.” It puts people at higher risk for infections such as Karposi’s Sarcoma, co-infection with hepatitis C, as well as immune system deterioration.
HIV will bring you closer together
Just because you have that one thing in common, it doesn’t mean you make a good couple. Any relationship is based on finding mutual interests. Talk about you hobbies, passions, you’re favorite movies and books. If you both like to travel talk about your dream destinations or describe the places you have already visited. There are many people on HIV dating sites, so you don’t have to focus on one person. Spread your web and talk to a bunch of people. Only when you found that someone who shares your interests and with who you can talk for hours, ask them out on a date.
You can talk openly about your condition
Yes, they all know you are HIV positive, why else would you be on a dating site of this sort. Just because you both have it, it doesn’t mean it is a comfortable subject. You have to know a person before you can open this type of topic. Don’t ask your chat buddy how he or she got HIV, or how they felt when they found out. It’s a sensitive subject, and people don’t like talking to strangers about that.