Meeting people online is a great way to spice up your life on a Friday night or forever, but you have to be in the right mindset to get the most out of online dating. Letting new people into your life is not the easiest thing to do, and if you’re not ready yet, that’s perfectly OK.
When you’re not really ready to date, online dating can be a true nightmare. You’ll come across all sorts of people that will be unbelievably wrong for you, and chances are you’ll give up after a few bad dates.
‘Meet people online’ is what everyone is telling you these days, but they have no idea how frustrating it is to be alone when everyone seems to be married or in long-term relationships. It’s 2017 so how can you not use Tinder and all others apps or whatever it is that people are using for free dating online nowadays? You simply have to, otherwise you’ll fail miserably, and who knows how long it will take you to get up, dust yourself off and move on?
Hopefully, you haven’t yet reached the point of giving up on dating altogether, and we’d like to help you step as far away as possible from that awful and consuming place called despair.
1. Embrace Being Single
One of the things all singletons need to do is simply embrace their status as being single. Maybe you’re not really ready to meet anyone online or in any other way, and that’s fine. But that doesn’t mean you should not use your time as a singleton to enjoy life to the fullest and do all those things couples wish they could do, but they can’t. Only when you’re in the right mindset will you be able to notice another person showing interest in you, and who knows, maybe it will lead you somewhere beautiful. Depression and self-pity do not constitute that mindset.
2. Venture into the Unknown
When you’re meeting different people online you never know who you’re going to bump into. It could be an old friend, an old flame or someone you’ve definitely never met before. The point is you have to embrace the unknown and make your piece with the fact that you’ll never know what awaits around the corner unless you take a peak there.
Give new people a chance and let them surprise you with how great they could be for you. Go out, have fun and most of all, date! If you can’t do that maybe you should put the whole online dating thing on hold for a little while until you feel more comfortable around people you don’t know.
3. Let Go
Letting go of all your inhibitions, baggage, expectations and whatever it is that is preventing you from stepping outside of your comfort zone will feel incredibly liberating. It’s as if the sun shines a little brighter when you’re not letting the stress of your past and present weigh you down. Be happy and you’ll attract happy people. Don’t forget that keeping your distance often means you get sidelined even when you want to be in the front row. Let other people know you’re open towards new experiences and challenges, and things will be much easier than when you’re cocooned in your own little world. If you’re not ready to let go and do all these things, maybe online dating is better put off until a more opportune time.